In the intricate tapestry of human existence, one common thread binds us all – the innate need for belonging. Recent research underscores the significance of finding a sense of belonging within close social relationships and communities for overall well-being. At our core, we are social beings, interdependent on one another for survival, and the ability to belong is a powerful force shaping our lives.
Neuroscientists emphasize the vital role of shaping narratives from personal experiences and connecting them to a larger story. This process not only develops empathy but also fosters a sense of purpose and well-being. Renowned psychiatrist Bessel Van Der Kolk's work in The Body Keeps the Score highlights the profound impact of meaningful relationships on mental health. Feeling safe with others, being heard, seen, and held in someone else's mind and heart, are fundamental to a meaningful and satisfying life.
Christopher McDougall's exploration in Born to Run delves into our evolutionary history, suggesting that in primitive times, humans' ability to run in groups played a crucial role in our survival. Unlike most animals, humans excelled in covering longer distances with endurance through collective running, making us the dominant species at the top of the food chain.
Early human survival relied heavily on communal efforts, from hunting to cultivating land and protecting communities. Our brain's evolution reflects this social nature, with the neocortex, the newest floor of the "house of the brain," enabling humans to become the most social species on the planet.
However, the contemporary quest for belonging is not without challenges. In a world where connection often seems elusive, the desire to belong may clash with the need for authenticity, freedom, and individuality. Today, shared fears and skepticism can overshadow the common hope, humanity, humility, and helpfulness that once bound communities together.
Author Brené Brown observes that true belonging is a practice that demands vulnerability and discomfort, urging individuals to be present without sacrificing their true selves. This realization prompts a reevaluation of our approach to community-building, focusing on shared trust, respect, and love while preserving individuality and freedom.
Our reality is far from this idealized vision of community. Before we embark on the journey of rebuilding and redefining, let's confront some harsh truths about our current communities. Only by acknowledging the challenges can we hope to move towards a future where the practice of true belonging becomes a cornerstone of our shared human experience and community building.
Here are some questions to consider and work with in your teams:
For Organizations/Employers:
How is our organizational community fostering a sense of belonging?
Are we providing platforms for meaningful employee engagement and connection?
Do our leadership and management teams actively promote and model inclusivity
How can we encourage authentic expression and individuality among employees?
Are there opportunities for employees to contribute to decision-making processes?
What resources or support systems are in place to address challenges related to belonging?
For Employees:
How can I contribute to building a sense of community within my workplace?
Do I feel heard and valued within the organization?
Am I actively participating in initiatives that promote inclusivity and community building?